Recent difficult circumstances have helped many people around the world become proficient in the art of “being oppressed.”
Being oppressed is a choice. The choice is whether to have a victim or a victor mindset in how one chooses to live.
“Your attitude determines your altitude,” says American author Zig Ziglar (1926 – 2012).
Victors take responsibility when things go wrong – victims look for someone else to blame.
Victors look ahead with optimism and hope – victims see the future as a dark and scary place.
Victors see talented people as potential teammates – victims see them as potential threats.
Victors are aware of their need to continue to develop and grow – victims think that life would be better if only everyone else would develop and grow.
Victors see challenges as an opportunity to overcome adversity – victims see them as more evidence that the universe is conspiring against them.
Victors plan for the future – victims worry about it.
Victors paddle their boat where they want it to go – victims go wherever the currents take them.
Victors understand that their life is a self-fulfilling prophecy – victims don’t know what that means, but their life becomes one anyway.
Victors regularly do the hard things – victims follow the path of least resistance.
Victors can’t imagine being anything else and feel free – victims can’t imagine being anything else and feel trapped.
Victor or victim.
Which one are you?
Victim Mindset
When a victim screws up he finds a reason to say, “It wasn’t my fault.”
A victim is often “overwhelmed” and just can’t find the time to do what is necessary – just “too busy” being busy.
A victim keeps going round and round the problem; never gets past it, and often doesn’t really want to.
A victim makes excuses.
A victim makes promises.
A victim says, “This is hard, and at least I’m not as bad as other people I know.”
A victim listens just waiting for his turn to talk and be heard.
A victim resents those superior to him and looks for chinks in their armour.
A victim looks for people or situations to blame; true responsibility for the goal scares them.
A victim follows the way everyone else is doing vogue trends and then says “this won’t work for me.”
A victim thinks “I’m special, and that is why I can’t succeed doing it the normal way.”
A victim tries to skirt the general principles and looks for secrets and shortcuts.
A victim complains about boredom and other elements of the grind.
A victim is all about the outcome.
A victim is nervous and afraid to fail.
Victor Mindset
When a victor screws up, he owns it and says, “I was wrong.”
A victor works harder than a victim and he “makes time” when he doesn’t seem to have any; another version of “sacrifice.”
A victor works through a problem, no matter how frustrating: the adage that it’s better to climb over and down the mountain once, than to just keep circling it over and over again because of fear.
A victor makes tracks.
A victor makes commitments.
A victor says, “This is good, but it can be even better if I work it.”
A victor listens in order to learn.
A victor respects those superior to him in what he’s trying to accomplish – and seeks to learn from them.
A victor takes responsibility for his goal beyond the goal and into the realm of personal character.
A victor thinks there are many ways to get there, and he only needs one.
A victor thinks “I’m special and that’s why I will succeed.”
A victor marries himself to the general principles and follows them over and over.
A victor embraces the daily grind of the process to achieve.
A victor is all about preparation.
A victor is excited and anticipates achievement.
What do you want to be, a VICTOR or a VICTIM?
The choice is yours.